Struggling to Say No? Try These Easy Boundary Scripts
Have you ever agreed to something you immediately regretted? Keep reading for a simple, guilt-free way to start setting boundaries.
Why Saying No Feels so damn Hard
People-pleasers and overachievers struggle with boundaries because we fear:
• Disappointing others
• Seeming rude or difficult
• Losing relationships
The real problem isn’t that you can’t say no—it’s that you don’t know how to say it in a way that feels safe.
What NOT to Say
Over-apologizing & Over-explaining
❌ “I’m so sorry, but I just can’t right now…”
❌ “I feel bad, but I really need a break…”
❌ “I don’t want to be difficult, but…”
Try This Instead
Clear, but Gentle Boundaries
✔️ “Let me check and get back to you.” (Buys you time so you don’t say yes automatically!)
✔️ “I’d love to help, but I don’t have the capacity right now.” (No over-explaining, no guilt!)
✔️ “I can’t commit to that, but I appreciate you thinking of me!” (Keeps it warm, but firm.)
Why This Works
• No apologizing → You’re not doing anything wrong.
• No over-explaining → You don’t need to justify your “No”!
• Gives options → The “Let me check” phrase helps you transition into setting firmer boundaries over time.
